Saturday, February 26, 2011

Friend Quote 10

"If you want a guy to ask you out on a date, close your legs and start acting like a lady."

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

What does it mean to you to be a man?

Friend 1: "To be a man to me, means taking responsibility for my words and actions. It means keeping my word."

Friend 2: "A man is someone that is accountable for his actions, someone that protects the people that he loves. Someone that makes those around him better."

Friend 3: "In our day, where being a man means being able to get away with a lot and having it be acceptable, such as not being chivalrous or being the sole provider, being a man today allows me to exceed expectations as to what was once expected out of a man. Asking a girl to dinner and paying for it actually goes a long way when a lot of girls are accustomed to guys just asking them out to get a drink and weasel their way back into their apartments. We have more ways to impress and exceed our overall negative stereotype of men our age. It gives me room to be a dominant factor in a relationship, which is otherwise not as expected as much during our age and time."

Friend 4: "What makes a man? A man is a strong willed, confident, honest, and a natural leader. Even though he possesses the aforementioned he is still compassionate and not afraid to show his true feelings for fear it would compromise his strength. A true man is a provider for his family and will seek assistance when absolutely necessary to get back on track should he lose his footing. A man will never give up in his quest to find the right partner."

Friend 5: "Well I mean, I still haven't found the right balance but pretty much taking care of my bitch in all means however, that gets me walked on by girls who expect that as well as monetary caring for as well so when I'm a dick to girls and single I FEEL more like a man because of the control but when I'm in a situation like the current I kind of feel like a bitch even though I'm taking care of the girl 1000%."

Friend 6: "For me, being a man means recognizing your strengths, accepting your weaknesses, and still moving forward with what you feel you need to do
and taking responsibility for your failings, and knowing that sometimes you may need help and being secure enough to ask for it."

Friend 7: "For me it means taking responsibility for things other than yourself. Boys can tend to only think of themselves, while Men realize their place in this world; that they have power to yield for the greater good of others or even themselves; by being good fathers, lovers, even citizens.It's something we need to do without expecting retribution, yet respect should be our reward."

Friend 8: "To protect, to love, to be caring, to push thing forward. It is not a sex thing, it is a doing thing, it is about being a hunter. Anyone in the new world can be a "man". It is to be a strong beast or animal to provide even with your own life. We can not create life so we are willing to give it and try to defend it and that is what being a man is. I am very manish in so ways. I do look at it like that. I want to defend the people I love from the world."

Monday, February 21, 2011

Hinduism and Heterosexuality: 25 Rules

1. Females need to be protected by their fathers in their childhood, husbands in their youth and by their grown-up sons in their older age. Protected from what? Illicit sexual involvement with irresponsible men.

2. Women are considered to be 9 times lustier than men. They are also easily seduced, like children are easily mislead.

3. Maturing girls are not supposed to be touched by any man but their husband, which means dating is not allowed. As soon as a young girl experiences her sexual urge in physical connection with a male, if it is not abusive, she usually gives her heart to that male. The heart should be given to only the husband. A girl who has given her heart to one boy is not suitable for marriage to another.

4. Thus, girls should be married BEFORE the age of sexual awakening to assure she awakens with the man she is to love and serve her entire life. Womens' strong bonding to their husband is the auspicious glue of civilized human society.

5. The marriage of a daughter is considered a great responsibility and brings honor and blessings to devoted parents. The father should carefully consider the groom's family, the nature and desires of the young people and try to ascertain by astrology or some method that there will be a successful, happy future for the daughter, when arranging her marriage.

6. Girls should be raised to expect to be married, to be faithful and chaste wives for the sake of good progeny and peaceful society. She should know how to cook, sew, clean, manage help, tend a garden, serve guests, take care of husband's parents and the children, manage household finances, speak pleasingly, be tolerant and patient, massage, give natural health care, associate only with good wives and make husband and God the center of her life.

7. Most girls do not require to be educated beyond reading and some math. Girls by their nature like taking care of children and desire to be subservient to a man. Men, especially young men, naturally desire to show their authority over a wife and this should be tolerated by the understanding wife. In the same way, women get much satisfaction being the authority over the small children.

8. Boys' schooling should consist of learning self-control and self-sufficiency. He should know about the soul, the world, action, nature and God. He should have a career based on his talent and interests, usually the same one or similar to his father. If he enters a marriage with these qualifications, the boy and girl can be happy in married life and the girl will naturally respect and want to serve her husband; as he will naturally feel satisfaction in working to maintain his wife and family and not be overwhelmed by attraction to the female form.

9. Girls should be taught not to feel any sense of degradation at the selfless, valuable service they perform in their role in life. They should willingly encourage and support their husband's endeavors.

10. Men should not indulge in illicit sex including porn, gambling, meat eating or intoxication, including smoking, coffee and tea drinking. They should not waste the family money. Nor should women.

11. When women are free to mix with men and sexual relations develop outside of a committed marriage, the woman, not the man, gives birth to children who are not wanted by the father or society. The women have to be supported by government aid or struggling families. Sometimes the women and child are abandoned and left to fend for themselves in the world. In many cases the unwanted child is murdered in the womb. This is against the first commandment of God and is a great sin for the woman. Unwanted children are the cause of many ills in society.

12. Boys should be taught from an early age to look upon all women except their wife as mothers. They should think of girls as being the possession of their fathers, and not in a position to give 'themselves' away.

13. As a matter of policy, men and women should not sit together alone in a secluded place, even family members, as the sex desire is so strong.

14. Boys and girls should not attend the same schools. Nor should boys be exposed to music, books, movies, TV or other mens' examples which promote womanizing as the standard of manhood. Girls should not be exposed to movies, books, music, TV or other womanly examples which promote looseness, nakedness and sexiness as the standard of feminine behavior.

15. Humans are naturally divided into four classes; from highest to lowest these are: Priestly or intellectual class, Administrator or warrior class, mercantile or agricultural producer class and assistant or laborer class. Girls can be married to boys of the same or higher class but should never be married to a boy of lower class. Such marriages result in unhappiness for both parties.

16. Sex is meant for procreation, to produce God-conscious children. It should be proceeded by prayer and spiritual intention and voluntarily avoided once the family has reached the intended size. If it cannot be avoided entirely, at least men should not pollute virgin girls or ruin the lives of other married couples. They must remain within the marriage.

17. Illicit sex should be strongly socially condemned.

18. As far as possible, all women should be married and have children to raise, as the selfless act of motherhood raises her consciousness, gives her happiness and confidence and purifies her of selfish female tendencies.

19. Boys should be taught to retain their semen to enable them to produce male children, to encourage good health, bright faces, self-confidence, strong memories and intelligent discriminatory powers.

20. Man's interest needs to be on service to God, saintly teachers, society and his profession. He looks upon wife as help-mate. He should not blame her for his failings and weaknesses, but should attempt to correct and advance himself. He should treat his wife with firmness, fairness and reserved kindness. She should treat him with respectful deference and affection.

21. Shyness in girls is a safety valve to help protect them from male exploitation. When they mix freely with boys and this valve is loosened it invites illicit sex (unwanted children) and girls loose a special charm, innocence and attractiveness.

22. Girls must be married while they still have the bloom of youth. Even an unattractive woman will be attractive at this age. Boys should be married before 30. An age difference of 10 years is perfectly acceptable. That kind of age difference helps the girl naturally respect the husband which inspires the male.

23. After the age of 50, the husband is to leave home and go to the forest or travel for spiritual pursuits and educating others about spiritual matters. The wife stays home in the care of the grown up children.

24. If there is no mother at home and the wife deals harshly, it is better for the man to leave home and go to the forest.

25. Every morning and night the family should read the scriptures together, pray and glorify God's holy names together for a half hour or more. That is the best foundation for family and society.


**Please note: I posted this to promote conversation and constructive debate. I do not agree with every statement, although, I do find truth in this list. Please send me your comments. Thank you. Love.


Source: http://www.henrymakow.com/25_ways_hindus_protect_girls_a.html

Friday, February 18, 2011

Meaning of Sexuality

From Dictionary.com:

sex·u·al·i·ty
   /ˌsɛkʃuˈælɪti or, especially Brit., ˌsɛksyu-/ Show Spelled[sek-shoo-al-i-tee or, especially Brit., seks-yoo-]
–noun

1.sexual character; possession of the structural and functional traits of sex.

2.recognition of or emphasis upon sexual matters.

3.involvement in sexual activity.

4.an organism's preparedness for engaging in sexual activity.


Question: How many of us own our sexuality and do not ask or expect anything back in return and fully accept all the consequences that come with sharing our sexuality?